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Speaking the Truth in Love
By Mickey Stonier - June 7, 2013

A friend in The Life App recently brought to my attention an amazing concept out of 1 Chronicles 3:5. It is there and in 2 Samuel 5:14 that we learn of Bathsheba’s four children with David. Not only was Solomon born through this painful relationship, but another son was also born to David and Bathsheba. They named him Nathan.

What an amazing thought; yes, most likely they named this little guy after the prophet Nathan, who was the friend who confronted David of his sin. And check out Luke 3:31 where we learn that Nathan and Solomon, as David’s sons, are the two chosen children to fulfill the prophetic lineage to Jesus Christ. David’s lineage splits off to Joseph and to Mary’s family lines from these two brothers.

Through Nathan is Mary’s lineage (Luke’s record) and through Solomon is Joseph’s (Matthew’s record). Grace upon grace! What a great lesson on friendship. “Faithful are the wounds of a friend.” Proverbs 27:6

Nathan out of love, hurt David deeply, but he spoke the truth in love. Ephesians 4:15 Yet it was this wound of honesty that brought David to repentance and forgiveness. As a result, Psalm 51 was written.

We must speak the truth in love to our friends.

We must speak the truth in love to our friends. A friend loves at all times (Proverbs 17:17), even when it hurts. I was introduced recently to a business leadership book by Patrick Lencioni entitled “Getting Naked: A Business Fable About Shedding the Three Fears that Sabotage Client Loyalty.” It is a fascinating insight into establishing a culture of vulnerability and transparency.

Any group would be benefited in seeking to build a community where the fig leaves are removed and where truth and honest conversation can take place in the safe environment of God’s gracious love. Who knows, in such an setting, you may even have a child named after you by a friend.


Mickey Stonier
Care Department Pastor
Mickey Stonier is the Pastoral Care Pastor for Rock Church. He also serves as the chaplain for a number of police and fire agencies throughout San Diego County.
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