This week marks the beginning of a new series entitled, “Wired for Love,” in which Pastor Miles will talk about how God created us to love and be loved.
In Genesis, God creates the earth in various stages, after which He states, “It is good.” But there was only one thing during creation (prior to sin’s entry into the world) that God claimed was “not good.”
And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18
It is not good for man to be alone because God created man with the capacity and desire for relationship.
1. God designed or ‘wired’ us to enjoy what He enjoys - loving relationships.
Why did God create man? He wasn’t lonely; He had the Trinity. He didn’t need us to worship Him; He had the angels worshipping him long before we came into the picture. He didn’t create us to glorify Him; He already had glory. God created man so that we could enjoy what He has – loving relationships.
God models loving relationship for us in the Trinity, the three persons of God who all have different functions and roles, yet are united in One God.
In John 17:21-23, Jesus prays to the Father, “that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me. And the glory which You gave Me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one: I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me.”
God models loving relationship for us in the Trinity, the three persons of God who all have different functions and roles, yet are united in One God. (See Genesis 1:26, John 3:16, John 7:16, John 16:13, John 17:1, John 16:14.) The Father sent the Son and the Son sends the Holy Spirit. Together they design and execute the plan of salvation, and they all point to each other and give one another glory.
God desires for us to have loving relationships with each other and with Himself. We can miss this fact if we get caught up in religion. Life with God is about relationship, and He wants to be involved in all of your earthly relationships, everywhere you go, in every area of your life.
2. Our design or ‘wiring’ actively seeks to live in loving relationships.
A relationship is defined as an interdependence between people where equal give-and-take exists…
If God commanded you to love, he must have designed you to love. We seek out what God created for us.
The human body has many different intricate systems (digestive system, skeletal system, endocrine system), including various brain systems. One of these is the relationship/bonding system, which constantly asks two questions:
- Am I loveable?
- Is love available to me?/Am I accepted by this group of people?
As a child you develop a sense of how to give and receive love, and sometimes this develops a pattern of falseness because you have learned that you will not be loved or accepted unless you do certain things or act a certain way. Whatever you learned in your relationship system, you will have the same pattern and expectations with God, because that’s what you know. (That doesn’t mean you can’t improve or re-learn how to love and be loved with God’s help.)
Our relationship system works in a very specific way because we were creative to love and be loved. Unlike animals, who can live among humans and never encounter another of their kind, people cannot live without love and human interaction; humans left to themselves will die. Don’t take these systems for granted. They have been given to you for a very specific reason – to enable you to have relationship.
3. God Himself is the ultimate satisfaction of our search for a loving relationship.
Pastor Miles shared that when he and his wife Debbie started dating, their relationship was a mess for the first few years. Miles finally came to a point where he realized that he needed to love Debbie better than he was able to, and only God could help him with that. We all have relationships that are not reaching their loving potential because we have not fully tapped into God’s love.
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 1 John 4:7-8
God not only loves and gives love; He is love. If you want to get back to the way God wants us to love, just start giving it selflessly! Don’t give out of selfish ambition or to get credit for how great you are. Relationships are not meant for manipulation, but for selfless love. You can’t get to that point unless you have the love of God in you. Ask Him today what relationships you need to surrender to Him and allow His love to flow through you.