In this series, we are learning to love people according to their love languages rather than according to our own. When we don’t take the time to love people in a way that is meaningful to them, we may be putting in loads of effort and yet leaving their emotional “tanks” on “empty.”
The Five Love Languages
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
The Affirming Lover expresses love with Words of Affirmation.
Someone whose love language is Words of Affirmation shows love by saying nice things to people and feels loved when people say nice things to him/her.
There is a correlation between how you love people and how you love God.
There is a correlation between how you love people and how you love God. Our personhood and ability to have relationship come from God. When we love people, we are practicing for loving and worshiping God.
If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?1 John 4:20
When you worship God, are you worshiping only in the way you feel most comfortable? Or are you worshiping God according to the Bible and according to how God wants to receive worship? God uses all the love languages, so it is important to learn how to give God Words of Affirmation.
“Bless” is virtually identical to “thank” or “gratefully recognize as the giver of blessing.” God wants your words and blessings. The Psalms teach us how to praise God, give Him glory, and communicate with Him, giving Him the proper honor and respect He deserves.
When we approach God with our words of affirmation, we bless Him, thank Him, and acknowledge Him as the Giver of all blessings.
True Lovers worship God by...
1. Verbally affirming His holy character.
Bless the Lord, O my soul;
And all that is within me, bless His holy name. Psalm 103:1
Acknowledge God as holy and perfect. His thoughts are pure. His decisions are right. His plans are perfect. He is always on time.
Tell God about His character: “I bless you, God, because…”
A True Lover loves God according to what He wants and deserves. It doesn’t matter if you are not a talker, you a shy, or you are not good with words. You still reach out to Him and give Him the best words of blessing you have to offer, not for your comfort, but for His worship.
2. Verbally affirming His mighty deeds.
Bless the Lord, O my soul,
And forget none of His benefits; Psalm 103:2
Do you know what God has done for you? God is the only reason you are alive or have a job, money, friends, home, food, church… You didn’t earn or deserve these things because of your own greatness, but because of His goodness.
Don’t walk silently through life; point to God, give Him credit and praise for the blessing He gives to you. Tell Him, not just today, but all week long, “Lord, I bless you because…”
There are many great and unexplainable things that will happen in your life this week. Pray that you will recognize them and give God the proper thanks He deserves. Things may also happen that you don’t like, but you can still thank God in advance for how He will turn those into something good.
3. Verbally affirming His forgiving heart.
He has not dealt with us according to our sins,
Nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
So great is His loving kindness toward those who fear Him.
As far as the east is from the west,
So far has He removed our transgressions from us.Psalm 103:10-12
We can become foolish and think we deserve to have what we have or that we have the right to fairness and blessing. But the Bible tells us that we have all sinned and the penalty for sin is death and separation from God. It is only by God’s grace that we are spared this judgment and punishment.
If you know Him and can recognize what He has done for you, give Him thanks and praise for His mercy, forgiveness, and loving kindness toward you: “Lord, I thank You because even though I am a sinner,…”
Next steps in becoming a True Lover:
- Use your words to affirm something about a friend or a critic.
- Use your words to affirm something about God to Him directly.
- Use your words to tell someone something affirming about God.