The Five Love Languages
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time: Uninterrupted time in God’s presence
Acts of Service
Worship is “Expressed Love”
When a person’s love language is quality time, he or she desires undivided uninterrupted attention. Quality Time does not necessarily accomplish a goal or complete a task; it simply means spending time together with the other person as your focus. If you’re together but you’re distracted – writing, playing on your phone, thinking about other things – then you are not really there.
As we are learning in this series, we love others for their benefit, not ours, so it is important to know their love languages and focus on filling others’ emotional “tanks” with the fuel that fills them best. Because there is a correlation between how we love people and how we love God, it is important for us to know all five of God’s love languages and how to love and worship Him through each language.
We have learned that we can love and worship God by giving Him words of affirmation and by giving Him gifts (such as tithes, offerings, our hearts), but today we will focus on giving God quality time-our undivided attention. We will talk about what quality time with God looks like and how we can improve the quality of the time we spend with Him each day.
Now it happened as they went that He entered a certain village; and a certain woman named Martha welcomed Him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, who also sat at Jesus’ feet and heard His word. But Martha was distracted with much serving, and she approached Him and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me.”
And Jesus answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:38-42
Being busy is not impressive to God. He desires for us to sit quietly at His feet and listen to His words.
Jesus tells us that there is one important thing from the above scenario, and it doesn’t involve cleaning, decorations, or food preparation. Being busy is not impressive to God. He desires for us to sit quietly at His feet and listen to His words. He wants this from us every single day, and He also knows that these are the most important and beneficial moments for ourselves, as well.
Mechanical Aspects of Quality Time with God:
Make a date with God, just as you would any other appointment. Make it a regular time when you will not be distracted or interrupted. Just as you have your vacations and doctor’s appointments blocking out time on your calendar, reserve time for God! In fact, God’s time should be first, reserved before anything else pushes it aside.
Where will you meet Him? Will you meet Him in your favorite comfy chair, in a room, in a field, sitting on a rock?
What to do:
A. Read: Read a passage from the Bible.
B. Reflect: Meditate on the presence of God. Listen for the voice of God.
C. Respond: What did you hear from God?
Devotional aspects of quality time with God:
Don’t get so caught up in the how, where, or when of quality time with God that you miss the whole point. Quality time should accomplish encountering Jesus. Focused quality time at the beginning of the day sets your day straight and allows God to order your steps, calm your heart, clear your thoughts, go ahead of you, direct you, and show you things all day long. You establish a presence and connection with God and take it with you throughout the day. This is what “walking with God” means.
Here are three devotional aspects to focus on during your quality time:
1. Listen to what God says.
Then Jesus said to them, “When you lift up the Son of Man, then you will know that I am He, and that I do nothing of Myself; but as My Father taught Me, I speak these things. John 8:28
Tell God, "I am listening."
When you’re in your space at the appointed time, say, “God, I am listening.” Don’t just talk to Him one way or be distracted with other things. Focus on Him. What God has to say to you is infinitely more important than what you have to say to Him! His response takes time, so be patient and wait for Him. He is worth waiting for.
God wants you to listen, trusting that He wants to bless you and change your life for the better. Be prepared to write down whatever you hear.
2. Do what God does.
Then Jesus answered and said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.John 5:19
Tell God, “Father, show me what we will be doing today.”
All day long you should listen for God’s direction. Sometimes you may hear God give you a directive, but rather than acting, you fast forward to the embarrassment of what would happen if it didn’t work out. But remember, it’s not about you. Just trust Him; you don’t know what’s going to happen later. Maybe you pray with a person and it seems to have no effect, but maybe he or she will walk away and think about it later.
3. Love like God loves.
“And I have declared to them Your name, and will declare it, that the love with which You loved Me may be in them, and I in them.” John 17:26
Tell God, “Jesus, I want to love you like the Father.”
You can love Jesus better by trusting Him, surrendering your life to Him, and worshiping Him with all your heart. You can be in fellowship with Him by laying your life down at the cross where He died for your sin.
The more you spend quality time with God and make yourself available to Him, the more He can mold you and shape you. Give God your attention and build your relationship with Him. Rearrange your life, make provision for Him in your day, and put Him first.