The Five Love Languages
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time: Uninterrupted time in God’s presence
Acts of Service
In this True Lovers message series, we’ve studied the five primary ways people give and receive love. A true lover loves others according to their love languages, rather than their own. As God displays and receives all five love languages, we want to know and work on all of them so that we can worship Him according to all five. But today as we finish this series, we will focus on the last love language, Physical Touch.
When a baby is born, the healthiest thing for that baby is for it to be placed skin-to-skin on the mother’s belly. When this skin-to-skin contact takes place, some amazing things happen.
The baby’s heart rate is regulated by their mother’s heart rate. The baby’s temperature is regulated by their mother’s temperature. The breathing of the baby is regulated by their mother’s breathing. The baby’s sugar levels are regulated by their mother’s sugar levels. The baby experiences a decrease in pain, crying, and stress from the change of environment it has just experienced because of this skin-to-skin contact with their mother. Good bacteria covering the baby’s skin is colonized as well. In addition, the mother’s body releases oxytocin, which is known to bond mothers to their children during contact. The baby can also instinctively find their mother’s breast to nurse as a result of this skin-to-skin contact.
When we are in contact with God, all that God is—patience, holiness, kindness, love, etc.—is transferred to us.
And, when we are in contact with God, all that God is—patience, holiness, kindness, love, etc.—is transferred to us. When we have contact with God, we are purified by God through the process of sanctification, and He transfers His holiness to us.
How do we physically touch God?
1. God’s touch is God’s transforming presence. (Genesis 48:14-15, Deuteronomy 34:9, 2 Kings 13:21, Mark 1:40-42, Revelation 1:17)
God is a spirit and He created us so that we can interact with His presence. Have you ever felt a sense that you are supposed to pray for someone, do something for someone, join a ministry, pray for someone, or give a gift? That is God! As the Holy Spirit comes upon us and moves within us, we experience a transforming presence.
When you have contact with God, you cannot stay the same. His presence is different than just having information about God in your mind. The presence of God is so overwhelming that we are compelled to bow and be transformed.
2. True lovers worship God by pursuing a touch from God, the tangible presence of God.
Tell God that you want to know His presence and interact with Him, hear His voice, feel His touch, and be transformed. He created us in His image to have a relationship with Him.
And the whole multitude sought to touch Him, for power went out from Him and healed them all. Luke 6:19
We want God to touch us and reveal His presence to us. He wants to be acknowledged, just as we would want to be acknowledged by our own children. Be relentless in your pursuit of His presence.
3. True lovers extend God’s touch to others.
Not only will God touch you, but you can represent God’s physical touch to others. You don't have to lay hands on others when you pray for them, but touching others when you pray for them is representative of God’s presence to them.
God wants to be close to us! The only reason He may not be close to you is if you have pushed Him away. Draw near to Him and He will draw near to you.
And it happened that the father of Publius lay sick of a fever and dysentery. Paul went in to him and prayed, and he laid his hands on him and healed him. So when this was done, the rest of those on the island who had diseases also came and were healed. Acts 28:8-9
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