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Relationship Goals - Part 3, Comparability
Miles McPherson - March 26, 2017

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God made us in his image so he could live in us and through us and so that He could be glorified on the earth through our relationships. This can’t happen if we don’t have a relationship with God or if we have a distorted relationship with each other. Our human relationships should have qualities that, when observed by others, reveal and reflect the character of our God.

Our human relationships should have qualities that, when observed by others, reveal and reflect the character of our God.

Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, “Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat;  but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.”
 And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.
 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
 And Adam said:
 “This is now bone of my bones
 And flesh of my flesh;
 She shall be called Woman,
 Because she was taken out of Man.”
 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. 
Genesis 2:15-25

Verse 20 notes, “But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.” The Hebrew word for “comparable” means, that which corresponds to, a counterpart, opposite. None of the animals God had created were comparable to Adam to fulfill God’s purposes for humankind. Adam and a giraffe together could not fulfill God’s purpose!  (And likewise, just because you meet an attractive person whom you life and admire, that doesn’t necessarily mean that this person is the one comparable for you to fulfill God’s purpose in your life!)

And so God took a rib from Adam and created a helper comparable to him in Eve. He had a purpose for Adam, but Adam needed a counterpart for that purpose to be fulfilled. It was His design and His purpose to create humans male and female, so it is not for us to create a purpose for that creation.

1. God made a comparable help mate to reflect the image of God. Genesis 1:26-27

Both men and women were made in the image of God; neither is made more in God’s image than the other. 

Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Genesis 1:26-27

What does it mean to be created in the image of God? God created you so that he could live inside of you and have a relationship with you, as a glove is made to fit a hand. But He also made man and woman to have relationship with each other in a way that others can see His love, His heart, His compassion, and His creativity. Our relationships and interactions need to reflect God - the heart of God, image of God, love of God, and the forgiveness of God, because if they don’t, they don’t work.

Pastor Miles shared that in all 100% of the divorces he has come across in his lifetime, one of the spouses was seeking to glorify him/herself, not to glorify God nor to honor the other person’s role in God’s kingdom. Marriage relationships were designed that man and woman put the other person first and work together to glorify God - and this is how they stay together. 

2. God made a comparable help mate to administer authority like God. Genesis 1:26

Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” Genesis 1:26

God gave man and woman together dominion over the environment and over animals, but not over each other (that is called slavery or control). Dominion always needs to result in God’s plan being fulfilled. God made the earth before he made people. He provided it fully functioning and working in union, so our dominion over the earth does not mean that we can do whatever we want with it, but rather to ensure its upkeep, that it may continue to glorify God.

3. God made a comparable help mate to model the salvation of God.

In the marriage metaphor, the husband represents Christ, and the wife represents the bride. Christ didn’t beat her down or try to control the church; He laid down His life for the church! So if husbands can learn to love, sacrifice, and serve, their wives will be blessed.

When a man and woman have a wedding, the two become one. When people see married couples, they should think of salvation, because God is coordinated in His design:

A. Marriage, like salvation, is a blood covenant. Deuteronomy 22:16-17

When a woman and man were together, the woman was given as a virgin, the evidence of virginity was blood on a sheet. Likewise, Jesus died on the cross and shed His blood to pay for your sin and unite you to God.

B. Marriage, like salvation, is a one-flesh union. Genesis 2:24-25

Religion is doing things to please God or gods to earn favor and be granted the rewards that come after death. But Christianity says that we are sinners who can’t do enough good on our own, that the penalty of sin is death, and that Jesus paid the price for our sin once and for all by dying on the cross, so that if we believe and ask for forgiveness, He is faithful to forgive us and fill us with His Spirit, becoming one with us. This is the purpose for which He created us; to be united with Him and to glorify Him.

C. Marriage, like salvation, is a life-giving union. Genesis 1:28

We were made to reproduce (though there are many reasons why some people are not able to do so.) The union of man and woman has the ability to bring forth new life, and from this life, we are able to learn more about God’s love for us. Similarly, when we become one with God, that union has the ability to draw others to God, to bring new life to the kingdom.

D. Marriage is compatible with the celebration in heaven. Revelation 19:6-9

In Genesis 2, Adam and Eve were the foundation of two, a husband and wife, becoming one flesh. In Genesis 12, God founded the Hebrew nation, and they were the bride to God the husband. In the New Testament, Jesus is referred to as the groom, and the church is his bride. And in Revelation, Christ will have a wedding with his church bride, and there will be a marriage supper in heaven. 

God offers you a wedding invitation - the marriage proposal of Christ. He invites you to be one with Him, to receive His Holy Spirit to live inside of you, and to glorify Himself and make Himself known through your life. It’s not about a religion, an association, or an organization, but a relationship with Him. Will you accept His proposal?

Answer these questions and discuss in your group this week:

  1. Have you ever experienced pain from a relationship that was not focused on honoring or glorifying God? Give an example.
  2. Do you know what the key comparable characteristics are for a mate?
  3. What would be the most effective or most natural way you can reflect the Image of God to a mate?


Relationship Goals

In this 7-part series, Pastor Miles shares biblical principles to create healthy relationships modeled after the Trinity. In Part 3, Pastor Miles reviews the Bibles' first marital relationship, to explain that our marital relationships are to reveal and reflect God's character.

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