Ministry requirements:~Pray first!!
~Our traditional mentoring opportunity requires a 1 year commitment to a foster youth, with a 2-hour per week contact (you set the time and day with your mentee)
~Complete an online ministry mentor application (on the Rock web site)
~Must be at least 18 years of age
~Provide proof of CA Driver's License and proof of auto insurance.
~Pass all criminal clearances, medical clearence and drug testing.
~Attend a mandatory group or 1:1 orientation with Step Up.
~Attend the Mandatory Training through the County of San Diego.
Most commonly asked questions:1) What are the ages of the children to mentored? 6-18 years old.
2) I'm a single parent, can I still be a mentor? Yes, but you need to be able to meet with your mentee 1:1.
3) Can my spouse and I mentor the same child? Yes, that would be wonderful!
4) I'm in the military and will not be here for a year, are there mentoring opportunities that last less than a year? Yes, for foster children 17 1/2 who are getting ready to exit out of the foster care system.
5) What if I have something on my record? Talk to us about that, don't count yourself out.
What do I do as mentor?
Show Up on-time everytime!!~ Appropriately share life experiences, and interests with a youth, this is the beginning of mentoring relationships
~ Help them acquire knowledge, information, or skills to recognize their spiritual gifts, and or strengths
~ Listen. You could be the first adult to do that for them
~ Share in their interests and experiences, by spending time talking with them, this helps boost self-esteem
~ Share in their life
~ Give support to their efforts
~ They often feel that nothing they do is right, so keep an eye out for learning and teachable moments
~ Show them patience
~ Show your mentee new experiences (remember many of these kids have never eaten at a restaurant or been to the ocean)
~ Take them surfing, to get their nails done, lunch, movies, sporting events, and church events
~ Hang out, have fun in the San Diego sun!
Mentors may observe signs of success from their mentees as a result of the relationship, such as:
- Improved school attendance
- Improved eye contact
- Happier in school
- Happier all around
- Increased consideration of others
- Decreased hostility
- Improved attitude
- Opening up to a mentor
- Improved interactions with peers
- Improved physical appearance
- Interested in church
- Asking more questions about God
- Something else to think about...
Many of these kids have been disappointed by previous relationships with adults (mother, father, and other relatives). Be patient. It may take a while for your mentee to overcome his/her hesitance and begin to trust you. View your purpose in this ministry as giving, understanding that, at least initially, the relationship may be different than what you thought.
Thank you for your interest in the Step Up The Rock's Foster Youth Ministry!
"Train up a child the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it." Proverbs 22:6