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Throne - Part 5, Throne to the Wind
Miles McPherson - November 30, 2008

Message Recap

Today Miles illustrated the differences between love and lust.

Love seeks to satisfy others at the expense of self because love wants to give. Lust seeks to satisfy self at the expense of others because lust wants to take. Miles also noted that lust is not limited to sexual desire.

To begin the services today, a special guest named Jessica shared her story and introduced a new ministry for woman of domestic violence.

Watch Jessica's powerful testimony:

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Now we are back in the book of 2 Samuel 13 where we read about one of King David's sons, Amnon, who "loved" his half sister, Tamar. We see in verse 2 that Amnon was physically ill as he thought of Tamar.

1. Lust breeds sickness, while love breeds health.

A healthy, loving relationship never makes one or both people sick. In fact, the opposite is true: those that are in love are usually healthier. If we desire something to the point of feeling sick, it's probably time to examine our hearts.

Now in 2 Samuel 13:3 we are introduced to Amnon's friend, Jonadab, who was a "crafty man" – not a godly man, not a nice guy, not a decent fellow – a "crafty man". This crafty man comes up with a plan to help Amnon steal what he desires.

2. Lust manipulates people, while love speaks the truth.

Miles shared that he had just spoken on the phone with someone who was a victim of someone else's lust for money. This person was lied to in order to manipulate a purchase so that another could "earn" a commission. Again, lust can occur in any part of our lives; sex, money, time, etc.

Now we see that Amnon has followed Jonadab's plan and is finally alone with Tamar. Despite her pleas in verse 12 and 13, this son of a king rapes his sister.

3. Lust forces sinful disobedience, while love encourages God obedience.

Marriage between a man and a woman represents Christ's relationship with us, with Jesus as the groom and the church as the bride. Jesus would never force us to do anything sinful; that is the devil's work. Whether it be a forbidden apple, turning stone to bread, or even Amnon's sad case; lust is a perversion of love.

Verse 15 begins, Then Amnon hated her exceedingly...The instant this crime is done, the "love" Amnon had felt was gone.

4. Lust hates responsibility, while love fulfills its responsibilities.

Amnon is a perfect example of this. As soon as he got what he thought he wanted, he felt sick and disgusted (similar to his initial feelings in verse 2). When you truly love someone, you don't want him or her to go away. Jesus wants us to be loved with a perfect love that will last forever.


This 9-part series explores the theme of King David's throne and kingdom, as it has valuable Biblical and life lessons for us today. Today we examine the difference between love and lust, looking at the consequences of lust.

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