The purpose of this message is to review what we’ve learned during the True Lovers series.
A love language is a form of giving and receiving love. There are five recognized love languages: Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Quality Time, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
The Love Tank is the emotional reserve from which someone loves another person. People love in different ways When you love others according to their primary love languages rather than your own, you fill up their love tanks.
Jesus had no need for forgiveness, yet He gave His life as a ransom for our sin. As Christ followers, we pursue relationships and love others for their sake, not ours. This can be counter to our culture, where people love for their own sake or seek relationships for their own fulfillment, or stay in marriage covenants as long as it feels good to them.
Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. John 15:13
True, biblical lovers love according to the love language of the one receiving love, whether a person or God. The Bible tells us that if we can’t love people, we can’t love God.
If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? 1 John 4:20
Worship is “expressed love.” Loving God is worshipping God. True lovers have a sincere love for God and people according to the love languages.
1. Words of Affirmation - Using words that encourage and build up. Ephesians 4:29
We can affirm the faithfulness of who people are (God is), what they have (God has) done, and what they have (God has) promised to do.
Who are the people in your life today whom you can thank, honor, bless, and encourage with your words?
How can you express words of affirmation to God and praise Him for who He is?
2. Gifts - Sacrificial giving that communicates appreciation and thoughtfulness. 2 Samuel 24:24
Giving gifts to others is a sign of appreciation.
When you give to God, you need to give him your first and your best; He doesn’t want you’re your leftovers. Give God the first of your day. Allow Him to establish the course of your day by surrendering it to God.
3. Quality Time - Giving your undivided and uninterrupted attention to someone. Luke 10:38-42
Find a time and place to give God your uninterrupted and undivided attention. Be willing to remove all distractions from communication and time together. During this time, you should read, reflect, and respond to His Word. Quality time with God enables you to hear what He is saying, see what He is doing, and love like He loves.
4. Acts of Service - Serving the needs of another person. Mark 10:45
Be willing to view others as better than yourself and submit to one another. Be willing to surrender worldly status for spiritual service, pursuing praise from God instead of man.
When we provide a service to others, we don’t serve because they deserve it (nor do we withhold our service because they don’t deserve it); we are not in the position to judge others. Remember that God loved us and sent His Son to die for us when we didn’t deserve it.
5. Physical Touch - Physical assurance of support and affection. Luke 24:37-39
Your physical touch communicates presence and support. God’s touch, His transforming presence, should be pursued and shared.
When you love other people, you follow God’s example of sacrificially giving of Himself for the benefit of others. When we take communion, we remember His sacrificial love and recommit ourselves to doing likewise.To learn more about the 5 Love Languages, go to www.sdrock.com/truelovers.