In this passage from 1 Samuel 30, David had a conflict his men.
As we saw in Part 9 of this message series, David had defected to the Philistines, who sent him back from the battle to the city they had gifted to him. David and his men arrived in Ziklag to find that the Amalekites had attacked the city, burning its structures, and taking captive all its inhabitants.
After losing their homes and families, David's men were bitter with David and threatened to stone him.
Every one of you is a leader to someone - coworkers, spouse, children, team members, etc. Occasionally, you will have conflict with people you lead and will have to fix the relationships in order to move on and work together.
Pastor Miles uses David's leadership as an example of how to effectively handle this conflict and restore relationships.
1. David respected his men's pain. 1 Samuel 30:6
Whenever there is conflict with the people you lead, you still have to lead. You must be the first one to acknowledge the conflict and deal with it.
David had lost his wives and home also, so he grieved for himself, but he also grieved with and for his men. He understood their pain and stood with them as they mourned.
2. David secured assurance from God. 1 Samuel 30:8
Now David was greatly distressed, for the people spoke of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and his daughters. But David strengthened himself in the LORD his God. 1 Samuel 30:6
David was distressed because of the anger of his men toward him. Have you ever felt like people don't like you and think you're a bad person? It is our tendency to run to people for advice and affirmation, or to rely on ourselves and our own strength. But David went to God.
You should not try to do any part of your life without God! Strengthen yourself and maintain your strength from the Lord. Don't wait until you have nowhere else to go. Deception starts when we feel things are fine and we can rely on ourselves, but we need to stay in a posture of dependence on God. If God is for you, who can be against you?
3. David respected his men's sacrifice. 1 Samuel 30:23-24
Even though David was in conflict with his men, he still acknowledged the hard work that his men did.
In 1 Samuel 30:9, David and his men pursued their attackers to recover their wives and children. However, some of the men were too weary to continue, so they stayed behind. When David and the others overtook the Amalekites and rescued the captives, they also took herds and flocks as spoil.
Those who had fought did not want to share the spoil with those who had stayed behind, but David said in 1 Samuel 30:23-24, My brethren, you shall not do so with what the LORD has given us, who has preserved us and delivered into our hand the troop that came against us. For who will heed you in this matter? But as his part is who goes down to the battle, so shall his part be who stays by the supplies; they shall share alike.
Have you ever watched a movie and been quick to judge a character, deciding that you don't like the person? Only later after the story unfolds, you discover that the person is of great value and that you misjudged him or her. It can be this way in your life also. God may have allowed a conflict to see how YOU will respond and grow.
You must see the whole picture! Maybe God wants you to grow and change rather than judging your enemy. Where sin abounds, grace abounds even more.
Do Something: Identify and encourage someone you are leading who is having a hard time keeping up.